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Bridging the AI-Feedback Gap
How AI Can Make Giving & Receiving Feedback Easier
Why Feedback is So Hard (And How AI Can Help)
Let’s be honest. Giving and receiving feedback is a minefield. It should be simple: You tell someone what they did well or where they could improve, and they use that information to grow. But in reality? People get defensive, egos flare up, and the feedback itself often gets lost in a sea of emotions, misunderstandings, and unintended insults.
Why? A number of reasons.
Our brains don’t like criticism. Even the most constructive feedback can trigger a “fight or flight” response.
The curse of knowledge. When giving feedback, we assume the other person understands what we mean, but they often don’t.
Emotional reactivity. Instead of processing feedback objectively, we latch onto specific words or tone and miss the message entirely.
Enter AI: The Surprising Feedback Coach
AI is often seen as cold and impersonal, hardly the ideal candidate for improving human interactions. But what if AI could actually make feedback more human by helping us bridge these communication gaps?
Here’s how AI can step in as your personal feedback coach.
AI Can Fix Your Feedback Tone (Before You Send It)
Have you ever written feedback, read it back, and thought, ‘This might come off a bit harsh…?’
That’s because tone is tricky. A simple “This could be better” can land differently depending on who’s reading it. AI can act as a tone checker, helping you rephrase feedback in a way that’s clear, constructive, and doesn’t accidentally spark an argument.
Let’s look at some basic examples:
Raw feedback: “You need to stop interrupting in meetings. It’s frustrating.”
AI-enhanced version: “I’ve noticed that when we’re in meetings, I sometimes struggle to share my thoughts. Can we find a way to balance the conversation better?”
See the difference? Same message, but one version makes people defensive, while the other invites collaboration.
Bonus Tip: You can even ask AI to give you feedback on your feedback, spotting unclear wording or suggesting improvements before you hit send.
AI Helps You Process Feedback Without Getting Defensive
We’ve all been there. Someone gives you feedback, and before they even finish, your mind is already racing with comebacks. I remember I once tried to give someone a tip on how to be more punctual in the mornings and was shocked at how quickly the conversation shifted to focus on the fact that I was bald. Sometimes, reactions make people look crazy.
Instead of reacting immediately, try this:
Copy the feedback.
Paste it into AI.
Ask AI to rephrase it objectively and highlight the core message.
This helps you focus on the intent of the feedback instead of getting caught up in the wording, tone, or emotional triggers. It’s like having a neutral third party translate the feedback for you, one that doesn’t take things personally.
AI Bridges Cultural Differences in Feedback
Feedback isn’t just about words. It’s about context. What’s considered “direct and efficient” in one culture might feel “rude and abrasive” in another.
A classic example? In some cultures, saying, “This isn’t good” is a normal way to encourage improvement. In others, it’s the equivalent of a public shaming. AI can help adjust phrasing based on cultural norms, ensuring feedback is received as intended rather than misinterpreted.
Here’s an actionable example: Before sending feedback to an international colleague, you can ask AI:
“How would this feedback be received in [specific country/culture]?”
This small step can prevent unnecessary friction and miscommunication.
AI Helps Customize Feedback to Personality Styles
Not everyone processes feedback the same way.
Some prefer blunt honesty. Others need a gentle, indirect approach.
AI can help tailor feedback based on personality styles:
Direct communicators? Keep it short, clear, and straight to the point.
Detail-oriented thinkers? Give examples and evidence to support your feedback.
People who resist authority? Ask open-ended questions to guide them to self-discovery instead of telling them what to do.
And this works in reverse too! If you struggle with how people give you feedback, you can let them know:
“Hey, if you’re giving me feedback, I process it best when it’s [direct/structured/examples included/etc.].”
When feedback is tailored, it lands better and actually gets used.
AI Can Be Your Personal Feedback Engine
Most people rely on others for feedback. But what if you could generate your own?
By feeding AI details about your actions, choices, and goals, you can ask for structured feedback and self-reflection. But you need to be 100% honest with it, and with yourself. You can ask questions like:
“Based on this project I led, what areas might I improve on?”
“How could I have handled this conflict better?”
“What communication patterns might be holding me back?”
This is where our Elephant Algorithm comes in. It structures feedback loops in a way that helps you raise self-awareness, uncover blind spots, and take actionable steps toward improvement. You don’t need to wait for your next performance review. AI can provide real-time feedback, anytime you need it.
Final Thoughts: AI Doesn’t Replace Human Feedback—It Enhances It
The biggest misconception about AI? That it’s here to replace human interactions. The truth is that we never needed AI to mess up our human interactions. We’ve been capable of at miscommunicating all by ourselves. If we don’t like it? We may just decide to get rid of THAT human interaction altogether.
The reality is that AI can actually help us be better at the things we already do, like giving and receiving feedback in a way that fosters growth instead of friction. It can help us get out of our own way.
Want to dive deeper? We’ll be running a free webinar on the concept of AI & Feedback on March 20th, 2025. We’ll be covering practical ways to integrate AI into your feedback culture, with live examples and actionable takeaways.
If you’re interested, just Click here to register for the Webinar for Free.
Let’s use AI to bridge the feedback gap, so we can all grow better, together.
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